Healing yourself through self love

One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself is to focus on self-love. When you love and accept yourself just as you are, it helps to heal old wounds and open up new possibilities. It allows you to move forward in your life with confidence and grace. It also helps to attract more love and abundance into your life. When you truly love yourself, you become your own best friend and biggest supporter. You start to see your own worth and value and begin to treat yourself with the care and respect that you deserve. By healing yourself through self-love, you create a foundation for a happy, healthy, and prosperous life.

Slow down and heal yourself first


There’s a reason we are taught forgiveness from a young age, and it’s not to make others feel better. Although that can be a benefit, letting others know that we do forgive them, but rather to help us let go of things that holding onto will be detrimental.

The famous saying

There’s a saying, forgive but never forget. I truly believe this is one of the best pieces of advice out there. Many times I have forgiven someone for something to allow myself to heal, but haven’t forgotten, and it has saved me a lot of heartbreak later on when the same situation happened. Just remember, even though you don’t forget the incident, don’t hold onto the pain.

Forgiveness should be given to yourself

We are all human, and we all make mistakes. We fall off the diet wagon, we forget a day (or 40 days if you’re me) of skin care, we forget plans every once in a while. I have done all three within the space of a week once, but instead of beating myself up, I told myself next time I’ll try hard, and moved on.


Setting boundaries can be a hard and daunting thing, but I’m here to help you through it. I went from letting people walk all over me, to being able to tell people when I need my alone time, and when they have really upset me, big win for this girl over here.

Steps you can do yourself

So lets do a step by step process to learn how to set boundaries in a simple way. You may need to alter these steps for your personality type, and experience with relationships of all natures.

  1. Start by saying no to yourself. Want a treat? Say no, and see it through, at least for a day.
  2. Start saying no to other people when you genuinely don’t want to do something. If they are upset by your stance, then they don’t actually care about you emotions and boundaries, which means they probably don’t belong in your life long term. STILL SAY NO
  3. Tell people when someone says something that makes you uncomfortable.
  4. And finally, don’t do anything that doesn’t align with your values.

If you follow through this list, you should find that it gets easier and easier to set boundaries. Trust the process, it will start of hard, sometimes harder than you think until you say it, but the more you value yourself, the easier it will be and more natural.


Affirmations are positive statements that can help to change our thinking and improve our mood. When it comes to self-love, affirmations can be a powerful tool for increasing our confidence and creating a more positive outlook. Repeating affirmations on a daily basis can help us to believe in ourselves and our ability to achieve our goals.

some examples

Some Affirmations for Self Love might include: I am worthy of love and respect, I am beautiful inside and out, I am capable of achieving anything I set my mind to, I love and accept myself exactly as I am. By repeating these affirmations, we can begin to see ourselves in a more positive light and feel better about who we are. Over time, this can lead to lasting changes in our self-esteem and the way we live our lives. Read about my affirmations for teenagers.


Seeking validation from others can be very detrimental to ourselves, let alone our relationships with those we are seeking validation from. It is important that when we need validation, we look for it within ourselves, that we validate our own feelings and emotions. Some examples are

-I am sad and upset and that is okay

-I am angry because…. and that is okay.

-I am hurting inside and I don’t know why, and that’s okay.

The important thing to remember about emotions like the two above is that we try not to take it out on people around us. Lean on those you need to as long as you tell them that’s what you’re doing, but find outlets that help you get out these emotions.

Everyone is human and at some point will seek validation, just remember to not abuse the relationships you have by only keeping them around as validation for yourself. Add value to other peoples lives and you’ll find validation in your own actions.

negative thought pattern

Negative thought patterns can be very harmful to self-love. When we repeatedly have negative thoughts about ourselves, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. We may start to believe that we are not worthy of love and respect, which can lead to destructive behaviors. We may also start to see ourselves through the lens of our negative thoughts, which can distort our view of reality.


It is important to learn how to identify and challenge negative thought patterns in order to maintain a healthy level of self-love. This includes recognizing when we are having negative thoughts, evaluating whether they are accurate, and then replacing them with more positive and realistic thoughts. With practice, we can learn to break the cycle of negative thinking and create a more loving relationship with ourselves. Find my extensive blog about how to turn negative thought patterns into positive thoughts.

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Make yourself a priority

One of the most important things you can do for your health and wellbeing is to learn to love and care for yourself. When you make self-love a priority, you are investing in your own health and happiness. When you take the time to nurture yourself, both physically and emotionally, you are showing yourself that you are worthy of care and attention. As a result, you will find it easier to cope with stress, anxiety, and depression.

There are many ways to show yourself self-love. Treat yourself to a relaxing massage, cook yourself a healthy meal, take yourself on a special outing, buy yourself a little pamper kit, one I love is this mini box, or this box that I received as a birthday present and absolutely adored. Whatever you do, make sure it is something that makes you feel good. By making self-love a part of your daily routine, you will be amazed at how much your health and wellbeing improves.

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